Getting to experience the joy, beauty and love of special relationships, parenting two bundles of energy, close family, friendships, work and life...
But, I've also experienced the heartbreak, pain, struggle, stress, self-doubt and suffering that can often be involved in managing relationships, parenting, family, friendships, work and life...
And I know full-well the level of effort, sheer determination and support that can be needed to overcome those same challenges and start to find genuine happiness, fulfilment, joy & peace, in who you are and how you're living your life.
I had also seen the same struggles, over and over, for women and children, in my extensive work with them as a practitioner within social care, education and private family support.
My burning desire to help others access the absolute keys to creating an on-going feeling of control within themselves, their key relationships and how they're living life, lead me to create "Jenuine Choice™" !...
Where I now help others, just like you, to finally feel fully in-control!...
Of how you feel; Of who you are being; Of where you are going!
Of creating a life that truly lights you up and makes you feel alive every day!
...All on your terms!
You see, I "should" have felt the happiest I ever had... I'd "finally achieved all the things" - You know, those things that we "strive" for: the happy 2.4 children, the dream other-half, the ideal family home, the career I had aimed for, the loving family, etc. etc. etc.
And from the outside, I imagine, that others thought I MUST be the happiest I could be... But the reality was that I was falling apart...
I felt a failure as a mother; a fraction of the closeness to my other-half than I had pre-children; incapable of keeping on top of our home; struggling to be who I wanted for those I supported at work; exhausted; stressed-out; lost; angry; frustrated; low; alone; just not good-enough...
Even though I was surrounded by those who cared.
You see, I couldn't tell anyone else just how much I had lost myself, because initially, I hadn't even realised the real Jen had disappeared!?
It was Christmas time and I was listening to mine and my son's song, "Silent Night", in the car on the way to work, when it finally hit me - just how far away from the real me I had gotten and just how lost I now felt...
over three whole years since I'd initially begun to struggle...
I sat and cried.
I couldn't stop.
I hated what had become.
I hated who I had become. I hated who I was being for those I loved.
And in that moment, sat outside my workplace, in my car, Silent Night on loop, crying harder than I'd let myself cry for such a long time, I realised...
I just couldn't do "it" anymore... "
I couldn't keep up the pretence, to myself or anyone else, anymore.
I couldn't keep on "keeping on" - I had nothing left - I had run out of cope.
And I knew it all had to change; for me, for my babies, for my relationship, for my sense of fulfilment with life - I had hit my rock bottom... and not for the first time!
I needed to find my way back to me, but this time, make sure I had the awareness, knowledge, skills, confidence, resilience and self-love to make sure I never let it get to that point again...
So with this in mind, I signed myself off (which was filled with masses of shame, failure and guilt!) and then I started the slow process of finding myself again...
of reconnecting to who I really am - redesigning an aligned life - rediscovering all the joy in me, my relationships and life...
feeling happy, alive, lit up, fulfilled and in-control of what really matters!
This is when I really discovered the power and joy of coaching!...
Re-embracing a love of personal-development, psychology and well-being.
Prioritising "me" again and finding my way back to full mental and physical health, was not an easy or short process - in fact to start with, taking time out for me felt all kinds of wrong!
I mean, as a mother of two under 5s at the time, a professional who had supported others for her whole working life, a partner of a hard-working man and a woman who'd travelled the world and "achieved" plenty of traditional "achievements", then,
I was MEANT to be coping better, wasn't I!?
I was MEANT to be on the hamster-wheel, busy-busy, giving-my-all, keeping-going, just-about-coping, getting-by, putting-on-a-brave-face, being-there-for-others, living-"that-life"....
wasn't I?!
I mean, that's what's expected and "commonplace" isn't it...?
That's what I was seeing all around me...
But I knew it wasn't how I wanted to live my life anymore...
So, I began to make the shifts - it wasn't easy at first, but I focused on starting to create more control, cultivate more connection, craft more confidence and choose more calm within the areas that really matter:
myself, my close relationships and my life direction.
I didn't know it at the time, but I had set out on my own
Jenuine Choice Journey™ back to the REAL ME,
the relationships I really wanted & the type of life that had felt so far away before.
Now, just a few years on, I can honestly say, that after "doing-the-work", having my own coaches and taking control, that I am the happiest and most content with myself, my relationships and my life, that I have ever been!
And so "Jenuine Choice™" was born!...
From the strongest, most genuine, desire to help others, like you, make their own Jenuine Choice™ to achieve the same!...
To help you overcome what's holding you back, finally take control of what matters, and excel at living a fulfilling life that lights you UP and helps you support others to do the same... all on your terms!
AND, without all the confusion, the self-doubt, the need to search all-over for the answers, the lack of support or understanding and wasting the YEARS that it can take alone.
I and the Jenuine Choice Journey™ are here to provide you with the guide and roadmap to get you to where you REALLY want to be... Far more easily, much much quicker, and with way more fun than just trying to "go it alone".
So, I'm here to help you make YOUR Jenuine Choice™ to start the change you really want, find YOU again and take control!
You only need to click to reach out and say hello to start with and we can take it from there...
Who knows how amazing your life could end up being because you did!?...
I CAN'T WAIT to get to know and support you, lovely!
Sending love, Jennifer Louise (AKA Jen!) xx
